You would think after having my first child I would know exactly what I was doing. But alas, I’m not that lucky. When getting pregnant the second time I felt as ill prepared or more in many aspects because I had only ever had one child, not two. I had no clue what it was going to be like. I’d have twice as much to do overnight and that freaked me out. BUT it turned out having baby #2 wasn’t as hard as being a first time Mama was, at least not for me. I was so busy worrying about how Hudson was going to change our lives that I didn’t get the whole maternity clothes thing down the second time around either.
Now that I’ve been through 2 pregnancies and almost 3/4th of the way there with my 3rd, I thought I’d write this post!
They say 3rd times the charm! So here we go. Maternity clothes FINALLY done right (my version).
- Maternity Black leggings –
These bad boys are important because they’re comfier than jeans, and black goes with everything. I invested in some Blanqi maternity leggings because they were 50% off (here) and I’ll straight up give you the pros and cons. Pro – the compression is great all over but is relaxed on your belly which ups the comfy factor. Con – $$$. If these weren’t so expensive I would own 10.
My favorite affordable leggings I actually found at Target (here) – the holy grail of everything awesome. They’re the Ingrid & Isabel brand and I’m in love. Pro – $ and comfy, Con – definitely more see through than the Blanqi, you can feel the difference in the material but they work for me so, there you go.
- Maternity Skinny Jeans –
I’ve previously only shopped maternity jeans at Ross because I’ve (up to this point) been super stingy with Maternity clothing in the past. Don’t get me wrong I’ve found some awesome pairs there, but they don’t seem to last. This time I shopped around, Target failed me in the “comfy” aspect and weren’t that flattering on me, but H&M on the other hand got 2 thumbs up + 8 fingers and all toes! Find those (here). The Target ones weren’t horrible but they didn’t fit me as snug as a pair of handy me down ones that I’d been gifted. H&M on the other hand had plenty of colors, more sizing options, styles and different fits! I loved the super skinny jeans.
- Maternity Tops –
Unfortunately not wearing a top in public is frowned upon. So since we should all probably be covering up, especially this time of year, I’ll let you in on my favorite places to shop. I used to wear my regular non-maternity tops until they were unbearable my last 2 pregnancies but I embraced the maternity clothing way faster this time around. I got plain black and white maternity T’s & some fun cute styles at Target. This one in particular, from Target, I get a ton of compliments on. I’ve loved my tops from Pink Blush, and the best sweaters from H&M on clearance ($7) woo! Here’s an H&M shirt I’m eyeballing for the holidays!
- Cardigans –
I’ve had plenty of cardi’s already stocked in my closet my first two pregnancies but have since learned to style them with my ever growing bump! Pair with a solid T-shirt underneath & necklace and you’re good to go.
- Dresses –
I’ve never been that into dresses but after having 2 kiddos, not only are they super easy and convenient for church, but they’re also the comfiest things ever. I feel liberated. It’s almost as good as not wearing a top but with the whole decency thing covered. My favorite dresses have been from Pink Blush and Kimi & Kai. You can also get away with non-maternity dresses if they have the baby doll waist.
- Robe –
When thinking robes, I used to think bathrobe or the dress robe Ron Weasley had to wear for the Yule ball lol. Little did I know that they made them thin and breathable for lounging around the house. I’ve worn mine for the past 2 weeks, even though I told myself it was specifically for the hospital. It’s super convenient being comfy while I make my kids breakfast or just relaxing. Almost like one of Jakes comfy shirts but less revealing and a lot cuter!
- Maternity Winter Coat –
This one I thought I could live without, and I kind of survived without it my other 2 times, but now I don’t know why I did that to myself!! I was always cold going to work, grocery shopping, to holiday events, and just didn’t like to participate in anything because my bump was never fully covered. I’m pleased to say I went trick or treating with my kids, go on Target runs during snow epidemics, and don’t mind leaving the house now because I’m nice and toasty. Not to mention this coat is adorable, and I’ve gotten so many compliments. I truly wish I would have purchased it with my first babe.
- Jewelry –
I guess I’m not the most social pregnant person because I feel kind of frumpy. This time I made an effort to get ready the days I felt especially icky. The fastest way I’ve found to feel cuter is a simple outfit with some rocking jewelry. The best part is, I won’t have a timeline for when I’ll need to stop wearing these! I can rock them post partum too! My faves are from DownEast & Target.
HA! Got you. I’m not standing in front of a salad. I’m probably actually waiting in line at a Sodalicious right now.
Bumpdate: 29 Weeks 3 Days and feeling WHALEY huge. Get it? Whaley 🙂
Cravings: Sugar Cookies & Rocky Road ice cream.
Likes: Getting little dude to fist bump me on command.
Dislikes: He has no respect for this mamas need for sleep, he’s definitely a night owl.
But seriously, what have we been up to this last month and a half you ask? I’ve gone into the doctor for having contractions about 6ish minutes apart and it turns out I’m dilated 1 cm. I was told it was because I was overexerting myself and the triage nurse told me to quote: “stop chasing my two kids.” Bless her heart. I may have a problem with authority, (we’re looking into it) but I may just have no idea how to go about not “chasing my two kids.” Have you met my kids?
We’ve been trying to take it easier, but with Halloween, the last days of park playing, and last minute photoshoots with Sodalicious we’ve still been on the move. We like the fast paced life our gang, or anything having to do with chocolate as you can clearly see.
Currently working on some more blog post like, what’s going in my hospital bag & must have maternity clothes (finally done right, after 3 pregnancies), so be sure to keep a lookout for those in the weeks to come. But in the meantime.. here are some cute pictures of my adorable kids, just because.
I love these little moments captured of giggles and double chins (Hudson and I both currently have this adorable quality). I look back at baby pictures of these two and think I didn’t take enough. So make your cuties giggle and smile today, tell them you love them, and hug them till they tell you to let go, and then hold on tight for a second longer.
I’ve always been a confident person. I’m just comfortable in my own shoes, except for when I’m pregnant. My feet swell and the blood flow to my confidence muscle gets cut off via my tight shoes.
But I’ve known this pregnancy was different.
As you know, I’m not the happiest pregnant girl. I don’t “glow” effortlessly, I actually have to put in a lot of extra time to feel/look normal. I do gain 50 lbs during my pregnancies and I’m not stopping that trend anytime soon to my chagrin. (I’m at 23 lbs and counting, woo, new record.)
Although this pregnancy has been similar to my others, I have changed one thing more so than anything, my mindset.
I am determined more than ever to soak this all in. (Although I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t have this baby tomorrow if a magical genie gave me the option.)
I’m stopping more often to enjoy the kicks, knowing this will be my last time experiencing the feeling. I’m staring at the ultrasound pictures more often, wondering what my little guy will look like, knowing this kind of anticipation is unlike anything I’ve experienced outside of pregnancy.
But above all else, I’m trying to love myself during this vulnerable time. A time where I feel bloated, gassy, irritable, puffy and just not myself.
I’ve avoided pictures during my past pregnancies like the plague. They’re memories of an uncomfortable time in my life I haven’t truly enjoyed. Don’t get me wrong, I love having my babies, they are my greatest blessings. I would go through the whole ordeal a billion times over to have my kids, but the process (pregnancy) is really rough on me emotionally and physically.
So this time I’ve tweaked the way I look at things a bit. For example, I started wearing pregnancy pants in my 1st trimester. I used to think the longer you could go without wearing “those” the better. WRONG. The moms-to-be who are winning, in my opinion, are the ones who are comfortable in what they’re wearing. It’s just a shame it’s taken me this long to figure it out. Like this maternity dress for example, feels like butter. It’s amazing. It shows my bump instead of hiding it, and I’m totally ok with it!
I’ve also let my housework slide every so often. I’ve felt too much mom guilt before to let it spill over into this pregnancy. I try my best, but we do have plenty of lounging days with PB&J sandwiches for lunch and dinner.
I’ve also talked myself into letting myself be in pictures, despite my insecurities. I want to be able to look back years from now and show my kids my cute round face. I can appreciate the beauty in other strong, amazing, inspiring women who just happen to be pregnant, so why should I see myself any different?
It’s definitely been a learning curve, but I think I’m getting closer every day to loving this time in my life and appreciating for what it is. Stretch marks and all 🙂
We’re expecting again!
Although I’m so excited for our third little nugget to join us, there’s obviously always some things that come with pregnancy that I’m not a fan of. Of course there’s the nausea, and frequent trips to the bathroom, but there’s also those people who put their foot in their mouths. I’m only 18 weeks and man do some people REALLY like to put their foot in their mouths. So let me try to explain 5 things you shouldn’t tell a pregnant woman. There’s definitely more than 5 but let’s just stick to these for now.
- “I can’t believe you’re ALREADY showing.”
This one should be self explanatory, but then again, it wouldn’t be on the list if it was common knowledge. You can’t believe I’m already showing? ( Psst I’ll let you in a secret, this is my 3rd baby, and my uterus does know what it’s doing.) I can’t believe you decided to wear those earrings with that necklace. See what I did there? Maybe it’s something you’re thinking, but it shouldn’t come out of your mouth if it’s not a nice comment. Some of you may debate it’s not a malicious thing to say, but when you tell a pregnant women that, she questions why she’s showing enough to warrant a comment like the one you just gave her. How about next time you try, “I can’t believe you’re ALREADY glowing!” Ahh.. much better.
2. “You’re getting/look so big!”
Again, why? Why!? I don’t comment on your weight (when you’re not pregnant), so why comment on how big I look when pregnant. That’s kind of the point. I am growing an entire human being inside of me. Of course I’m going to look bigger than normal. Commenting on my growth stopped being flattering after puberty, and even then it was annoying. K?
3. “Are you sure you’re not farther along?”
Just no. Do you have a medical degree? If my “downstairs” doctor and my menstrual cycle didn’t already correctly guesstimate the arrival of my baby, what credentials do you have to question my answer. None. N-O-N-E.
4. “You look like you’re ready to be done.”
Gee thanks. This is just another way of telling me I look horrendous. You could have just as easily said, “You look miserable, uncomfortable, and have a resting stink face.” Yes, yes I do… but again, we don’t have to have this conversation unless I want to talk about it, and even then, cheer me up, don’t add to my pity party. How about instead of commenting on my general appearance, you just bring me a Haagen-Dazs to help make me feel better.
5. “My labor was 49 hours long, I tried to go natural, was in excruciating pain when I finally decided to get an epidural, and my anesthesiologist was a horrible jerk that had to poke me like 7 times before actually getting it right. Then I had to go into emergency C-section and was loopy on drugs for days.”
If I ask you specifically about how your delivery went, give me the dirty details, if I asked it’s because I want to know everything. But if I didn’t ask let’s just stick to, “My delivery was hard, but so worth it because of this beautiful little miracle in my lap.” I feel for first time moms with this one. They’re always told all the horror stories. Whether you try natural, elective c-section, epidural, episiotomy, home birth, hypno birth or a million other possibilities there’s always going to be someone who had a bad experience. But don’t push your opinions onto first time mamas (unless they ask). They already have so much to deal with. They love and want the best for their little one and will make the best decision they can with all the information given them, let’s not scare the already hormonal moms-to-be ya?
If you’re pregnant now know you are radiant no matter the comments, and please don’t compare yourself to others, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. There’s always going to be someone prettier, nicer and more talented than you and me. Enjoying our lives for our strengths, weaknesses and blessings is what it’s all about. I’m not a happy pregnant gal, it’s not my forte, and that’s ok. I’m just grateful for the opportunity.
I’m not going to lie, writing this was definitely more therapeutic than informative. I just smile and nod when these comments come my way now. I’ve truly had all these things said to me in every pregnancy and I’d like to scream my snarky remarks and internal thoughts to those who like to say things, but it’s not worth it. I would be just as bad as the people who say these things in the first place. Some people just don’t think before they speak. So this is my outlet. Writing it down. Hopefully you laughed a couple times or at least sympathized with me lol.
Or again, maybe it’s just me.. and you all have no idea what I’m talking about. I hope some of you can relate 😉 Hang in there mama.
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I was a wreck after I had Charlotte. A hot mess, all day erryday. I seriously had no clue how people had more than one of these cute chubby cheeked babes.
BUT… when we decided to try for baby #2, I was determined to do it all differently. I was not going to gain 50 lbs. during my pregnancy like I did the first time. It just wasn’t going to happen. I was going to be a put together mama, I was going to exercise every day, eat only granola and kale, and have that glow about me every other pregnant mama seemed to effortlessly achieve.
BUT… (again) Life doesn’t usually happen the way I plan. If you didn’t know me personally during my second pregnancy I’ll have you know I did in fact gain the 50 lbs I so vigorously said I wouldn’t gain, and he came early, HA!
The only words of wisdom I have for you one-child moms (maybe soon to be two-child moms?) is, enjoy it.
Everyone reacts to these situations differently but what has helped me be a “good mom”, was to see examples of REAL women around me being fun, messy, loving moms. I want to go back and breathe in every moment with my only child, but since I can’t, I cherish my one on one time with my 2 beautiful kids, that much more.
My advice with 2 kids, plan and then do. I was always such a procrastinator, and waited to do everything until the very last second. You can’t do that with parenthood. At least I can’t.
Plan to leave the house. Whether it be a stroll around the neighborhood, a nearby park or the zoo. LEAVE the house. My kids get tired when we go have some fun and then they’re ready for naps. It might seem hard at first but it gets easier I promise. You definitely learn you took for granted just having to buckle and unbuckle one child when that number doubles.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Growing up I had this idea of what I wanted my life to be. I wanted a white picket fence, a hot husband, and kids who thought I was awesome. I wasn’t going to be a lame mom. I didn’t aspire to be a Pinterest mom until I was pregnant. I don’t know why I let myself get wrapped up in it all. But I’ve learned I’m a much funner mom when I can laugh at myself instead of get angry my Pinterest cake didn’t turn out. Laugh at yourself more often, you’re fine. If you told your kids you loved them today, you’re doing great.
I try to be a fun mom, but sometimes I’m a crazy uptight freakazoid mom. The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem right? I look at myself back then and how stressed I was about keeping Charlotte clean all of the time, making sure she was eating correctly and a million other unrealistic goals I had for my 9 month old and I laugh. It’s comical. I’ve learned a lot and my life would have been a little smoother on my emotional health if I would have just loosened the reigns. I think that’s what you learn going from 1 to 2 kids.
So here it is, are you ready? The truth know one tells you about having 2 kids is that it’s not that hard. Sure it’s an adjustment, but it’s not difficult if you have the right mindset. You’re going to do great. You’re going to love the second one just as much as the first and that seems impossible. I thought Charlotte was going to be my favorite child for the rest of forever and I was just never going to admit it to my second child haha. But that’s truly not the case. You love your children for their differences and even though I’ve known one longer than the other it’s still a draw. Crazy I know.
You’re not going to know how you get more accomplished somedays having 2 kids then you ever did with just 1. Or maybe that was just me? Maybe I was a late mom bloomer. But I did not get a lot accomplished with just one child. I kid you not, we do more, play more, and clean more efficiently now then when it was just the 2 of us. I’m thinking it might have something to do with 2 kids being able to entertain each other.
Long story short, it’s fun, chaotic and super stressful somedays but rewarding like you can’t imagine. You’re not going to have it all together all the time. It’s OK, and the sooner you learn/accept it the better. Take it from me, and that’s the truth.
– Signed A Recovering Perfectionist
Shout out to Evelyn Cervantes Photography for capturing my cute babes and their wonderful personalities, find more of her work here.